I read this Huffington Post article on "What really happens when toddlers see you angry" and then I fell into a rabbit whole of watching videos on child development and the brain...so fascinating!
Ahh those google boys, they've definitely outsmarted Mr Britannic!
I've always found this stuff fascinating. It's one thing to study it as a young adult at uni but it's a whole another thing to amerce yourself in it as a new parent, it comes with a whole new level of heaviness and responsibility.
Below are a few of the video's I watched if you're bored on the train one afternoon :)
Patricia Kuhl: The linguistic genius of babies
So interesting - made me think that maybe I should start talking to Lucas in Macedonian a bit more.
The power of relationships in Early Childhood Development
I scanned this one...but I'm hoping to get a chance to watch the rest later.
"As parents although it's not possible to always do it, nor should we expect ourselves to but when we can convey through the moment to moment way in which we respond to our children, that they are valuable, that they are important, that they are safe. These things are being conveyed in the way a child is looked at, held, supported and will go far in casting a shadow, a positive shadow, on who a child can be. Because those messages that seem momentary are actually embedded in a child for life"
First Impressions: Exposure to Violence and a child's developing brain
This one is a little confronting but powerful.
"That's the beauty of the human brain, it is a mirror to that child's developmental experience"
Ridding through Central Park with an umbrella and map in hand...oh and a rather large camera :P
Oh that's right we made the most of the rain and had a little snooze while we waited for it to pass. Is that our red picnic blanket?? Did I pack that in my suite case...from Sydney to NY?! Wow - sometimes I even amaze myself!
We both know that parenthood looks nothing like this but that's not to say it doesn't feel like this... 99% of the time :P
I love doing this journey with you honey. The early mornings, the explosive nappies, the trips to emergency are all made better because we're a team.
As for you Lucas, you are so much fun to be around. You bring out the best in your Dad and I. Apart from smothering you in kisses from head to toe each day I'm just not sure how to tell you how much we LOVE being around you.
We love seeing you smile and giggle. You're Dad has all of a sudden become really, really funny. He wasn't this funny before you arrived. I think that's partly because he now has permission to legitimately crack Dad jokes but mainly because he just loves seeing you smile and giggle!
Dad, thank you so much for taking these images for us. I can't tell you how incredible it is to have images that capture what I feel in my heart when I'm around these two amazing men!! So special!
ps: Lucas, you were a wee 6 weeks old when we took these, you're twice as old now!
know I keep saying thank you but I can't tell you enough how amazed and
thankful I've been for the way you have loved and cared for my new
little family over the last 11 weeks.
Lucas, Jarrod and I are so blessed to be loved by you.
Thank you for the 101 little things you've done for us...
you for your ninja like antics while we were in hospital, where you'd
fly in with a meal, tidying up and disappear all before we'd had a
chance to blink. And then you'd reappear again with yet another
meal...for 5 days straight! You saw us a couple of times each day and
yet you didn't cuddle Lucas till he was 7 days old!! Because according
to you "Tina, it's you're job to cuddle him and my job to look after you
and Jarrod"...I was floored when you said that because I know how long
you've waited to hold your grandson.
Thank you for dropping in with pancakes so we could have a nice breakfast when we arrived home.
Thank you for driving Lucas and I around and for putting up with my "wow- mum you're a really bad driver" comments :P
Thank you for turning up to say hi and looking after Luca so I could have a shower and then
disappearing and reappearing with a few things you noticed we needed.
above all that and the 96 other things I haven't listed because a little guy is waiting for me to feed him...thank you for
being so happy for me, for looking at Lucas the way you do and for
showering him with your time, love and affection.
I'm incredibly blessed to have been raised by such a strong and passionate woman.
Oh my boys having a morning cuddle - ok more like mid morning. I didn't
take a pic of the 5am morning cuddle - but it looked just like
this I promise ;)
love the way you love him, the way you want to spend time with him and
be around him, even when he's upset. I love that
you're so hands on even with the hard stuff and that you give it a go
whenever you can. I think it takes a lot of heart and confidence to do
what you do for us both. You are such a great Dad J.
[thanks for this photo mum, who said you couldn't use my camera...you nailed it!]
On Tuesday, you had your first trip into the city. Baba and Aunty Tanya took you for a walk in Hyde park while Dad and I had our meeting. Dad went back to work while the four of us went to Coogee for a walk and some lunch.
I went to uni just up the road from this beach. The first time I sun-baked on that sand was the same day I sat for my last exam, I was at uni for 5 years! I know how nerdy must your mum have been!! Either that or I was more interested in getting home so I could hang out with a cute guy I knew (aka your dad). The truth lays somewhere between those two facts.
Your mum was a nerd who was madly in love with her cute boyfriend.