a tale of two hearts

great marriage advice

Joanna from Cup of Jo is married to Alex - it was their 3 year anniversary a few days ago.

Alex, who is a little older and wiser (just like you), does something really great. If they're in an argument, he says, "I love you" right in the middle.

 Below is what he told Jo a few mornings ago - his a wise man indeed.
"The secret to a long and happy marriage is not the idea that nothing bad is ever going to happen. But it's that when something bad happens, you know how to get through it together. One of the most important things is that when you're having an argument, instead of ratcheting up the emotion, you diffuse it. In the middle of a fight, say, "I love you; you're the most important person in the world to me," even if at that moment, those words are the hardest ones to choke out because you're so mad. It reminds you both of the big picture. It doesn't make it instantly better, but it takes it down a notch. And in the cool-down period afterward, you're not left questioning. You know everything is going to be ok. Half an hour after the fight, it's over and you feel good."
How impressive - isn't it such a great idea. It would take so much humility and self control!

And here are some totally unrelated pic's of us in London :)


Actually...maybe the one below is kinda related to the blog...i.e you're looking all old, wise and contemplative :P